Why EQ is more Important than IQ... Read on.. it can change your life and destiny..
To be prosperous is a very natural and essential
requirement of every human being.
Therefore we all want to be successful in life. A prosperous life means that one has to be successful
as a student, as a professional and also as an individual. Success besides materialistic achievement
also means self esteem, satisfaction and general well being. The opportunities,
available to you today are fortunately much more than what were available to
young people about twenty years ago.
For example to pursue your further studies you have a
large number of options. To choose a profession, apart from becoming an
engineer, a doctor, a bureaucrat or a chartered accountant today one can opt
for Mass Communication, Business management, fashion designing, Hospitality
sector, Telecom Management to name a few.
Therefore in due course of time some of you will become IT
professionals, singers, actors, models, painters, doctors, commercial pilots,
entrepreneurs or consultants. Your other class fellows may pick up some very
different professions, which you may not be able to even think of today. This is possible because today things are
changing at a very fast pace and more and more number of avenues are opening
up.
To be successful in any of these areas you have to be good
at that field. These areas are going to
be your domains where you will be working.
Therefore it is essential to have a good domain knowledge or domain
expertise. For that you should have a
sound basic educational foundation. This
is given to you by your schools and colleges.
But do you think domain knowledge or expertise is enough to be
successful? Just think about this.
If I ask you the secret of success of Amitabh Bacchan,
then what would be your answer? Is it
only his talent as an actor that has taken him to the number one position in
the film Industry for the second time?
Or is there anything else that he posses which sets him apart from other
film stars? The answer would be yes. He
has been so successful not only because he is a great actor but also because he
has that will power to fight against failure, to work hard consistently at this
age and his excellent relations with his co stars and film directors. Above all
his humble approach in dealing with people has made him a likeable person.
In a similar way Sachin Tendulkar is a great batsman
because besides being a gifted cricketer he is extremely hard working,
meticulous and can play under tremendous pressure. Therefore acquiring domain knowledge alone
will not be enough for success. You need
to develop these other worldly skills possed by the most successful
people. Today it has been well proven
that great people like JRD Tata, Narayan Murthy or Azim Premji were successful
not so much because
of their domain knowledge but because of the qualities
like, strong will power, love for their Job, ability to handle failure to name
a few. These people also had a firm
belief in values like honesty, integrity and caring for others and the society.
Let us look at how over a period of time we as a society
and as individuals developed our skills. During the beginning of the last
century the progress of the society was dependant on inventions and discoveries
like steam engine, electricity or the penicillin for example. All these were the gifts of science and
therefore study of science as a subject became very important for our
progress. Because of this a lot of
importance was being given to science and technology. That is how the concept of IQ (Intelligence
Quotient) to test human ability came into being. It was designed to assess the logical
reasoning part of our abilities.
Besides the logical reasoning god has given us some other
abilities like acting, singing, or playing a game like football. These are the gifts given to us by god. Many people like AR Rehman, Lata Mangeshkar,
Saurav Ganguly have used these abilities
to make a very successful and satisfying life.
Besides the IQ and the gifted abilities there is one more very important
ingredient for success and that is values and emotional intelligence. Values like commitment, honesty and caring
for others are therefore as essential for success as IQ. Emotional Intelligence is a set of those
abilities which make us perform in any field better than the best. Handling a set back, self esteem, ethical
behaviour, being mentally strong are some of the abilities which form a part of
Emotional Intelligence. Unfortunately an
IQ test does not cover these abilities at all.
Handling a crisis or getting along with friends has nothing to do with
your IQ at all. Nor are these related to
your ability to become a singer or play football. A lot of research has been done which proves
that all great and successful people, like great singers, doctors, corporate
heads, scientists and people from every walk of life have been successful
because they believed in values and were having a high emotional intelligence.
Therefore what ever field of profession you choose, these qualities will be
essential for your success. As you read this book you will realize that this is
the absolute truth.
These are those worldly abilities without which success is
not possible. For example you may be very good at mathematics and have a high
IQ but if you do not seriously and meticulously prepare, you can never get
through a competitive examination. Similarly you may be good at playing
cricket, but if you do not practice six hours a day on the cricket pitch, have
passion to play and do not go to the gym regularly to tone up your muscles, you
cannot become Sachin Tendulkar.
Therefore these values and emotional intelligence become
essential for success. Another important point to be understood is that the
logical reasoning and IQ are
a matter of head where as emotional intelligence and value
based success is from the heart.
For example, you would easily realize that passion for
acting is from the heart and not the head. Similarly patriotism, charity and
even self esteem are from your heart and not the head. Also remember that you
would like to make friends with those people who are dependable, whom you can
trust and who are good kind hearted people. If this is what you want from
others, then. I am sure others would also like to see these qualities in you.
Another important thing for success is to have a role
model. Role model is someone you look up to or someone you want to emulate or
be like. A role model need not be only a very famous person like Abraham
Lincoln, or Dhirubhai Ambani. It could be anyone whom you respect for his or
her qualities. I know many young people who find their role models in their
father or elder brother or even someone staying in the neighborhood. You can
have multiple role models also. You may choose your father as a role model
because he is down right honest and very hard working. At the same time you may
admire Amitabh Bacchan for his dedication and ability to take set backs in
life. So you could have two role models. And one day you may notice that your
uncle has a pleasing personality and a great sense of humour, which could make
for your third role model. Such role models become a great source of
inspiration for all of us. And they remain a source of motivation and to some
extent guiding spirit throughout our lives.
Now if you admire these people for these qualities than I
am sure your friends will admire you if you imbibe and demonstrate these same
very qualities! Just imagine, you can also become a role model for others if
you acquire these simple abilities covered by emotional intelligence and value
based living. Through these lessons we are going to learn some very important
human abilities which I have briefly explained till now. Whatever you choose to
do in the future, these abilities will take you to those heights of success
which you can never ever imagine.
To get the maximum out of this you must participate in all
discussions, group activities and also answer honestly the self assessment
questions given at the end of each important value or quality. Analyse your weak areas and then work on then
so that you can improve in each and every quality. God has given each one of us enough strength
and intelligence so that we can make a change, a positive change to our
personality. The first step to make a
change is to accept that you have certain qualities which you need to improve
upon. Then it becomes much easier to
change. Even if you make a little change
in each area it will make a big change in your life.
“It is difficult
to change 100% in one area but it is easy to change 1% in hundred areas”
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